Being different is just being

Can't say this journey has been easy it's been very difficult I try my best to stay ahead of my own needs but a struggle it has been.  I usually edit this as much as I can but not this one so it will be hard to read for the three or five people that read it.  I would like to tell you how grateful I am that you have even seen it your wonderful for taking your time to read my struggling blog Thank you!  We all go through things day after day and for some reason it gets only a little better for some while others luck out and get the dream life.  Not saying I wouldn't want to win the lottery but I have learned a lot about myself and people in general it's cool and hard to see.  We all grow up with a self hatred that most people project on others makes it easier to make someone hate you then love you.  I can say it like this do you expose your vulnerabilities to your enemies and there is to ways to think about this question that branches into a bigger thought.

Why do you have enemies so this is what started the anger or hate between you, also was it a imposed perception placed on them or you.  Why do you think that the vulnerability needs to be protected become stronger from all the attacks adapt and become triumphant.  I choose to not have enemies but a lot of times it's not avoidable I try to mitigate it and bring understanding to the situation by dialog if that don't work which I don't let it progress outside my control.  I have to consistently remind myself the only thing I control is myself and to control the situation I have to manipulate me.  How I speak where my eyes go in the confrontation where I stand what I do with my hands what words I choose to say after he speaks. 

I'm not perfect and I don't walk away from it without problems but I have more power and control over how the direction of the situation will be exposed.  I don't want the other person to be able to have any ability to lie or manipulate the narrative.  I have to have more power in there mind to make them think that they can't make a move with out a full push back.  So during the confrontation listen and understand what they want and what they are willing to do for it.  Look them dead in the eyes and repeat it to them and Don't allow them to believe it's possible and that’s how you say it to them.

I didn't want to end up here writing about handling business but power is knowledge if you understand your enemy better then they can grasp you, you win.  So try not to make enemies make cowards out of those that appose you take your authority.